Aging is seldom easy. For adult children and family members, having a conversation about moving into a senior living community can be a very delicate endeavor. These talks are often met with resistance and can be frustrating for everyone involved. If you're someone who's ready to talk to a family member about next steps, be advised that this conversation should be approached with a gentle, loving touch. You may receive some feedback in the form of frustration, but if you approach the topic with an open heart and mind, everyone will benefit in the long term.

If it's time for you to talk to your loved one about choosing a senior living community, consider using this script as a guideline.

"I know this is hard to talk about, but I'd like to start the discussion."

When everyone is sitting around the kitchen table having casual conversations, gently open the forum for talks about the future. Reassure your parents or family members that you want to talk about it now so you can understand their wishes and help them find a great community when the time is right. It's important to let them know that nothing needs to be decided today, and no one is ganging up on them; rather, you want to ensure you have their best interests and wishes in mind when it's time to explore senior living communities.

"I'd like to learn more about the type of community that will make you happy."

This statement shows that you're interested in the health and well-being of your parents, so they don't feel like you're just trying to get rid of them. Although you know you want the best for your loved ones, tone and words can often convey different messages to their recipients. This statement is open, kind and shows that you're willing to listen and learn. This openness can help deflect otherwise uncomfortable situations.

"Would you be open to visiting a community that offers many activities and social outlets?"

Fear is a natural reaction when people talk about their futures as they age. Nobody wants to be new, have no friends and be the person who eats lunch by themselves every day. You can help your parents overcome these stigmas by visiting real-life communities. Once you open this question up for discussion, schedule a visit with a nearby community that you think your parents might enjoy. If they're open to the idea, schedule a few more visits with surrounding communities so they can see the differences. When you schedule your appointment, ask if you can do so around mealtime so your parent can interact with some of the current residents, ask questions, and get a real feel for the place.

"Can we talk about finances?"

In many families, money matters operate under lock and key. This often leaves adult children helpless when they're trying to find the best options for their aging parents or family members. Try to put this conversation on the table as early as possible. Your parents may have money set aside for their Golden Years, or you may have to find affordable living that fits within your own budget. In either case, it's best to start the conversation early.

Before you engage in conversation about this subject, try to learn as much as you can from others' experiences. At 10 Wilmington Place, we encourage you to talk to our Senior Living Counselors as a resource to learn more about our community. Feel free to reach out to us any time you have questions!